Growth through Relationships

Today I AM grateful for being able to think about my relationships this morning. I am always on the side of accountability and learning how to be better. Looking back, I've learned that I have been the reason people needed to leave me and I have been the one needing to leave. Some relationships may have lasted longer than they should have. Some, split before we could learn, grow, and give all we were supposed to give to one another. Sometimes we just did not have the capacity or selflessness to care for each other the way that we should. I am talking about all relationship types. Not just romantic.  

One of the main lessons I have learned along the way is: 

One of the worst things you can do in life is try to convince someone not to leave when their heart and mind are already gone. 

A relationship, a business, an organization, a ministry, etc.

If you have to convince them not to leave, you'll likely spend their duration there, convincing them to stay. 

That is a misery for them and you. It's delusional if you see it any other way. 

What if it is divinely meant to be and pride and or offense is get in the way? 

Continue to live and operate as you would.

Communicate from a place of love and maturity.

Do not allow emotions to lead. Deal with those first and then proceed to communicate. Do not force. That will harden a heart faster than you can blink. Leave them be. Guard your heart, lest you too will become prideful. Let God be God. Seek counsel. Alone, if you must. Remember, in times of struggle, most, including you are only seeing and caring about yourself. All parties have been hurt and or are hurting. 

There are many layers to navigating through relationships. Work on developing of self, the inner work through it all. 

All of these things are easier said than done. Yet, all things are possible.